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Oneofthemostimortantattributesanindividualcanhaveisconfidence。Confidenceisinvaluableineveryareaoflife,butinbusinessorinachievinganydegreeofgreatness,itisabsolutelyessential。Unfortunately,therearefewlaceswecangotolearnthisessentialskill。Yet,itisaskilland,assuch,canbedeveloedwiththerighttools。
Thefirsttoolforgainingconfidenceisknowledge。Knowledgeofyourownstrengthsandlimitations,andknowledgeofthearenainwhichyouwishtoexcel。Butknowledgealoneisntenough。Knowledgeleadstoconfidenceonlywhenitisvalidatedbyexerience。Wetestthevalidityofwhatwethinkorbelievebyuttingthetheoryintoactualracticeandgatheringdataorfeedbackfromtheexerience。Ifthefeedbackisositive,weassumeourtheoriesarecorrectandactaccordingly。Ifthefeedbackisnegative,theboldamonguswilladjustourcourse,whilethemoretimidoftenallowthenegativefeedbacktostothemcold。
Confidencecanbegainedbyknowing,understandingandcorrectlyalyingthefollowingformulasandfactors:
(1)Knowledge+Exerience+PositiveFeedback=Confidence。
(2)Positivefeedbackcomesfromsuccessfuloutcomes。
(3)Successfuloutcomesaretheresultofconsistentracticeandreeatedattemts。
(4)Reeatedattemtsareossibleonlywhenwebelievewewilleventuallysucceed。
Theformulaseemstosaythatwemustbelieveinourabilitytosucceedbeforewehaveexeriencedanysemblanceofsuccess,andthatistrue。Thatswheretheknowledgeartoftheconfidenceformulacomesin,andwhyitisthefirstequationintheformula。Beforewecanbelievewewillsucceedwithouteverhavingmadeanattemt,wemusthavesomeknowledgeastowhatsuccessentailsandwhatstrengthsandabilitieswebringtothemix。Wemustalsoknowthetruthabout
"failure
"。
Failureisnottheresultofattemtingtoachieveagoalandfallingshortofthemark。Failureoccurswhenweallowfallingshortofthemarktocauseustoquittrying。Actually,thereareonlytwowaystofail。Giveubeforeyoureachagoalyoureallywantorcontinueonaaththatiswrongforyoubecauseyoumadeawrongchoiceinitiallyandbelievetheerroneouschoiceistheoneyoumuststaywith。
Suose,forexamle,yougotintoyourcarintendingtomeetafriendatanunfamiliarlocation。Yougetturnedaroundonthewaythereandgetlost。
Infailureformulanumberoneyoudiscoveryouarelostandattemttocorrectyourcourse。However,youaretoofaroffcourseforjustonecorrectiontogetyoubackontrack,soyoumakeanothercorrectionandanotherone。Afterthreeorfourcorrectionsyoudecideyouwillneverbeabletofindyourway,soyougiveu,arkyourcar,andneverreachyourdestination。
Infailureformulanumbertwoyoudecidethateventhoughyoumadeawrongturn,youmuststickwithitbecausetomakeanewchoicewouldmeanyoufailedwhenyoumadetheoriginaldecisionthatgotyoulost。Soyoucontinuedownthewrongroad,knowingitswrong,butrefusingtomakeanalterationbecauseyouvealreadymadeachoice,howeverwrongitmaybe。
Bothscenariossoundrettyabsurdinthatcontext,buttheworldisfullofeolewhogiveuandquitbeforereachingtheirgoal,andwhostaywithbadchoiceslongaftertheyhavediscoveredtheyarebad。
Toensuresuccessyoumustbewillingtoalteryourcourseandkeealteringit,andtotryagainandagain,asmanytimesasittakes,toreachyourdestination。Whetheryoureachitornotwilldeendonyourbeliefinyourabilitytoeventuallyarrive,andthatbringsusbacktotheconfidenceformula。
Thefaithtokeetryingultimatelycomesfromknowingyourselfandyourabilities,andknowinghowtousethemmosteffectively。Inthehustle-bustleoftodaysworld,wesometimesforgettotakeathoroughlookatourmostvaluableasset-ourselves。Onlywithself-awarenessandunderstandingcanwecometobelieveinourabilitytofindtherightsolutionandtoarriveatourgoals。
Peolewhodontknowthemselvesareeasilyside-tracked。Theyhavenowell-definedersonalboundariesandnocenterofower。Athoroughandaccurateself-assessmentcanrovidethecomassweneedtogetandstayontrack。Withoutacenterofowerandersonalboundariestoguideus,thereisnowaywecanachieveourgoalsbecausethereisnowaytoknowforsurewhatourgoalsare,orshouldbe。
Hay,centered,well-directedeoleareeole,whoknowtheirowncorebeingandhonorit。Thesearetheeolewhohavethebasictoolstoattemtnewthings,tosetnewgoals,toersistinursuingthem。Thesearetheeolewhosucceed。Theysucceedbecauseeveryachievedgoalincreasestheirfaithintheirabilitytosucceedandenablesthemtotrygreaterandgreaterthings。Thehayresultisahighdegreeofself-confidenceand,withsufficientself-confidence,successiscertain。
一个人最重要的品质是:信心。在人生的每一个领域,信心都有着无法估量的价值。特别是在商业或任何伟大的成就中,它显得尤为重要。不幸的是,这个重要的技能几乎无处可学。但是,既然信心是一项技能,只要方法得当,就能培养起来。
知识是获取信心的第一种工具。认知自身的强项和弱项,认知你想有所成就的领域,但仅拥有知识还不够,只有通过实践的证明,知识才能带来自信。我们把所想的或者所信仰的理论,放到实践中去证实,从经验中收集数据或者反馈信息。如果反馈的信息是积极的,我们的理论就是正确的,从而采取相应的行动;如果反馈信息是消极的,我们之中勇敢的人会改变局势,而更多的怯懦者通常会被这些消极的反馈阻挠,停止前进的脚步。
了解、理解并正确运用下面这些原则和因素,就可获得信心:
(1)知识+经验+积极反馈=自信
(2)成功的结果带来积极的反馈
(3)成功的结果源自不懈的努力和反复的尝试
(4)唯有相信自己终会成功,才能不断尝试
这个原则似乎表明,我们必须相信自己有能力成功,才有可能得到某些成功。确实如此,信心原则中的知识部分就源于此,也是原则中第一个等式成立的原因。在没有任何尝试就相信我们会成功前,我们必须拥有一些知识,如成功需要什么,要有怎样的优势和能力的综合作用。另外,也必须了解“失败”的真相。
尝试了,却没能如愿达到目标结果,就不是失败。只有当我们承认达不到,并放弃尝试时,才会出现失败。事实上,只有两种方式会导致失败:在达到真正想要的目标前,你放弃了;或者继续在错误的道路上前进,因为,你最初作出的选择是错误的,但你仍执拗地坚持。
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