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244让别人对你感恩（第1页）

244．让别人对你感恩

让别人对你感恩。有些人把受惠变成施恩，本来在受惠，看上去或被认为却是在施恩。有些人十分狡猾，本来是在求人，却好像是给人面子，自己反而受到尊敬；他们能从别人的掌声里捞到好处。他们掌控事情非常精明：别人为他们干活，却好像他们在为别人做事。他们用非常手段，颠倒施恩与受惠，或至少让人分不清谁对谁有恩。他们通过赞赏他人来获取最好的东西；表达自己喜欢某样东西，让人觉得赠送它是件很荣幸的事。他们利用谦恭来施恩，原本是他们欠债，却让别人感到是受惠。通过这种方法，他们把被动语态的“受惠”变成主动语态的“施恩”，这说明他们虽不通语法，却很懂手腕。这是一种狡猾的手段，但是，如果你能觉察并看穿它，让他们真正付出而你真正受益，那就更显出你的高明。

244．Createafeelingofobligation

Createafeelingofobligation.Sometransformfavoursreceivedintofavoursbestowed，andseem，orletitbethought，thattheyaredoingafavourwhenreceivingone.Therearesomesoastutethattheygethonourbyasking，andbuytheirownadvantagewithapplausefromothers.TheymanagematterssocleverlythattheyseemtobedoingothersaservicewhenreceivingonefromtheTheytransposetheorderofobligationwithextraordinaryskill，oratleastrenderitdoubtfulwhohasobligedwhoTheybuythebestbypraisingit，andmakeaflatteringhonouroutofthepleasuretheyexpress.Theyobligebytheircourtesy，andthusmakemenbeholdenforwhattheythemselvesshouldbebeholden.Inthiswaytheyconjugate"tooblige"intheactiveinsteadofinthepassivevoice，therebyprovingthemselvesbetterpoliticiansthangrammarians.Thisisasubtlepieceoffinesse;astillgreateristoperceiveit，andtoretaliateonsuchfools'bargainsbypayingintheirowncoin，andsocomingbyyourownagain.

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